Calypso, I'm right there with you in the box next door.
My husband had a 401K at his last job, but we ended up taking it out when he quit to start his own business. We DID pay off all our debt with it, but but had to borrow the money for the business. Now we're in debt FOR the business, that hasn't DONE anything. He's working a full time job again, but it's not enough.